Unique Design

Each and every one of us has a unique design; not one of us is the same. God has made us all different in order to serve different purposes, His purposes. My unique design was discovered through testing with Myers Briggs, DISC, Strength Finders, Spiritual Gifting and doing life mapping. Then, through evaluating these I was able to understand what each thing meant and specifically what it meant for me. I also learned about how this also makes me different from others.
It may seem that an ENFJ will be the same as the next ENFJ and that an ENFP isn’t that much different. I am an ENFP, two of my teammates were ENFJs and another was an INFJ. Three of us were D personalities and each of us had a few strengths and spiritual gifts that were the same. I was quick to conclude that we therefore were much the same in our thinking, how we learn, react and interact. Thus concluding that how I do each of these things must be how each of them would do it. Boy was I wrong! I was looking at each thing separately instead of putting the whole picture together. It is not possible to separate each part of us, for it all blends together to make up our hard wiring. When you put it all together every single one of us is different.
It is often difficult for me to accept this. I so often want to put each person in a box and figure out how it is that I am supposed to interact with him or her. As an exhorter, I often want to fix others and in my arrogance I often think that looks like how I think and do things. I have a tendency to try to control others and am learning how to give God control with everything, including others. He is working on my insecurities and accepting our ‘uniqueness’. I believe, or maybe it’s hope, that my wanting to control and fix is my way of relating and trying to understand others; it would be much more simple if that looked the way I know. Life is not that simple; there is no formula of how each person works and how we should interact with them. We are much more complex than that! I guess this is why God tells us to treat others with love, respect and the fruits of the Spirit. We aren’t to figure each person out; we will go insane trying and end up more confused than when we started. Instead it is better to reframe and enjoy the uniqueness of each person and how this uniqueness can add to each other’s strengths, help out in our weaknesses and encourage us. How boring it would be if we were all the same; we are much more beautiful in our uniqueness.